Explain why Although your specific reasons for starting couples therapy might vary depending on the relationship, there is usually a common thread: a commitment to your relationship and partner. So when first bringing up couples therapy, it might be a good idea to emphasize how much you value your relationship and want to work on making it the best it can be for both of you. This can help keep your partner from going immediately on the defensive, and can help you ultimately have a more productive conversation.

Some of the advice we have heard from friends or family about relationships can be misguided. Each couple has their own dynamic and patterns of communication that work for them. Sometimes statements that are meant to be helpful can actually be harmful to your relationship. While the advice may be given with good intentions, not all advice is good advice.  Below are some examples!